Meeting on a train

Well obviously it's been sometime since I last posted. I think a lot of the reason I quit blogging about recovery was because I felt that I needed to just be me the Father of our son, the husband of my wife, not the spouse of my qualifier. Yesterday while on a Vanpool Van I was talking to a coworker about my wife's recent attempt to quit smoking. Now my wife just celebrated her 18th month of AA recovery and is doing great in her program. The conversation in the van pertained to my perspective of the Friend's of Bill W. and why they don't use the 12 steps and AA tools and apply them in other areas they feel they want to be freed from, in this case smoking.

My wife had quit smoking several time and recently had quit for what I recall being several months when she took on a new AA Sponsor. This sponsor has multiple year in the program and has what sounds like a few sponcees. But what I have never been able to get my head around is that though my wife had quit smoking, her sponsor offered her one. My wife is now trying to quit again.

I digress, This is about my program ahhha!!! My coworker on the vanpool said in so many words that though we Al-anon on the outside looking in see the AA program and it's tools as something that could be applied to any and all of lifes situations. Friend's of Bill are so focused on the recovery of Alcohol, Narcotics or what every other 12 Step there is, that they seldom consider asking their higher power to release them from some other issue or addiction.

This brings me back to my initial question, why do friends of Bill look at smokes differently then drinking. They will both destroy, and they both can kill. So with that in mind would an AA sponsor not see offering a cigarette to a recovering smoke as being the same as offering her a drink? Or am I over analyzing this?

My wife suffers from an intestinal disorder, and as I type this she is in another room under the knife remove portions of her small bowl that were damaged from Crohns. Thank god she does not drink anymore, but we will never know if the drinking increased the deterioration on here bowls. We do know that the smoking has to stop, this for sure is known to cause damage to the cellular intestinal walls

Thoughout our conversations my coworker used many slogans and statements, I then realized she was speaking from experience, she too has been in and out of AA and Al-anon rooms. I now have a new Friend to talk with and a refreshed reminder that my program needs to be worked if I am to understand what my wife is working.

I will try not to be away so long. This was an uplifting exprience to free these thought from my head.